Lee from Arizona

I took care of my mother full-time for the last two years of her life following her having a bowel obstruction that led to a colostomy. She was in ICU for one month, then a couple months in a specialty care hospital and then four months in rehab. Her doctor told me to be with her to try keep her oriented to reality and avoid ICU psychosis. She was unconscious for much of the time so I read poetry to her that she would have known from school. She had mild dementia from the after effects of anesthesia as well as from some TIAs. I lived with her at her independent living facility as a companion and to take care of her colostomy. For the last six months of her life, and at her insistence, we moved back to her house This was much, much better for her - she was happy to be home, her friends were more apt to visit her, and I was able to have a series of my friends over who knew her and with whom she had shared interests and memories so I could work from time to time.

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