Anne from New York
My grandmother, Valeria, was able to live in her own home until she died at 101. She was in great mental and physical health for her age, and was able to stay home because she had a home health care aide. The caregiving I did was supplemental, and a pleasure for me. I spent several days a month with her, brought her things she wanted, helped fix up her house, cooked, etc. But also I was able to hear about her life and be entertained by her hilarious stories.
Perhaps the hardest part was dealing with financial fraud and abuse. I was able to recoup funds taken from her bank account through a scam. But because she wanted to avoid a family fight, there was another issue we never fully addressed. After advice from an elder abuse specialist, we acceded to her wish for peace, although it still saddens me that she was put in that position.