Carol from New Jersey

I take care of my father, Lamar. It is a privilege to be able to care for him but it is a load. He has dementia. I have been caring for him for eight years (in February). After my mother's sudden death. We have been able to develop a routine for dad that I feel makes him feel safe.

I have lots of support from friends and some family. I am always looking for whatever is available to help the situation and make life comfortable for my dad. I try to keep busy physically and mentally, as it can be overwhelming at times. No one likes to see the person they depended on all their life suddenly dependent on you. Unfortunately that's life. I look forward to the time when no one will suffer from these debilitating diseases anymore. And no resident will say: “I am sick.” The people dwelling in the land will be pardoned for their error. (Isaiah 33:24)

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