Norman from Washington

I started to care for my mom, Rose, five years ago because the lady who took care of Mom had a stroke. Mom and I moved into our own place in 2013 . Mom had chronic COPD and also had a broken back. It probably was the hardest years of my life, but I would do anything to do it again for my mom.

She passed March 27th 2018. She was my best friend, we spent every day for the last 5 years together. She died in my arms. It was the most traumatic thing I've ever witnessed, and now I suffer from PTSD with nightmares of that day. I relive those moments every day of my life, but I wouldn't have changed anything.

If I had any advice for another family caregiver it would be take care of yourself. Take a moment to get back and breathe, and get back at it. Don't be afraid to get yourself some help - talking with counselor does wonders. The best thing about caring for my mother was that I got to spend everyday with her and that I loved. Sometimes we butted heads, and I would just leave the room take a breath smoke cigarettes and get back to doing what you do best. Please cherish those moments. Thank you