Chasity from Kentucky

I have been a caregiver to my husband Allen since 2005 when he returned from Iraq injured.
He was injured by a IED blast and suffers from traumatic brain injury (TBI), post traumatic stress (PTSD) and nerve damage to his hips and back. I help him with his daily activities but most of all I help him with time management and TRYING to keep his anxiety and anger levels low (not a easy job). I have devoted all my time as a fulltime caregiver to my husband when he had a suicide attempt in 2010 after the sudden death of his Father. The most challenging part of being a caregiver I would have to say is trying to juggle raising our 2 daughters and being able to attend all my husbands VA appointments. The only help I get is from my mother. She lives 30 minutes away and is always there in a moments notice to help or just for me to get away for a breather (a.k.a. Going to Wal-Mart... ALONE). The worst part of my journey has been while trying to get all the papers filed and benefits started from the VA we lost everything we owned. It took 5 years to get everything done and processed and in that time we lost everything and started back from scratch. I will have to say over the years I have been able to have some life changing experiences with some great Veteran organizations that helped my husband and myself so much. In 2014 I became a Elizabeth Dole Foundation Fellow representing the state of Kentucky and supporting caregivers on a local and national level. Today I am a advocate for Veterans and Caregivers. My goal is to help Veteran families so they will not have to go through the same financial loss after injury because there is help out there.

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