Patricia from Illinois

I am Patty the daughter to Maria. My story started 5 years ago when my dad got sick and on his death bed told me the caregiver that they had was mistreating him and to not allow her to return to care for my mom. I was so mad and hurt, that I stopped working full time as a cardio diagnostic tech and took the class to become my mom's caregiver. I lost more than half of my salary to care for my mom, but I had no other option. I take her to doctor appointments, grocery shopping, clean her house, wash her clothing, we go on walks, help with meals, and help with personal care. Honestly it's like having a child to care for. This is sometimes such an emotional roller coaster, but I am giving my mom the best final years that I can and I can live with that.

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