Harry from Arkansas

My mother, Reta Carolyn Pipkin, had a massive stroke on Jan 5, 2013 due to a blood clot caused by her AFIB. The clot lodged in her left frontal lobe of her brain and she was in a coma ICU for 2 weeks. When she finally woke up, we learned the extent of her injuries caused by the stroke. She was completely paralyzed on her right side, couldnt speak or eat. But she was alive and aware and we communicated by me asking questions and her nodding her head yes or shaking her head no. One of the first things we talked about was me telling her that I would be by her side every step of the way.

We got into a skilled nursing facility Jan 18, 2013 and I kept my promise through my own medical problems (Disabled Veteran) and doctors visits, multiple stays in the hospital weeks at a time, ran/sleet/snow/ice, almost everyday for 2 & 1/2 years. I kept that promise until April 14, 2015 when I lay next to her hospital bed in a recliner pulled up close so I could keep my arm on hers I watched her take her last breath and I fulfilled my oath. I kept my promise. She's been gone 4 months now and I'm still trying find my new "normal". I have taken care of my mom so long that I dont know what else to do. I am happy that she is no longer suffering but I really do miss her so.

Thank you.

Harry Burns

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