Michael from Florida

I just don't know what I am doing. Everything is criticized by her. She complains about everything. It is too salty, too sweet, too tough to chew, not cooked to completion, too cold. She barks orders, turn on the TV, bring me this or that, did you move my, did you throw away my, did you? If you touch something of hers to straighten up, don't throw that away, or I was going to do that.

She wants me to cook a meal the way she used to cook. Yet she will only eat a fist full or less and then wants to save the rest for her bteakfast.

It's time to change clothes or bathe. This is a major issue. She thinks that wiping off with a bath towel is all that she needs. She sleeps in the same clothes that she has worn all week.

I feel like she resents me. My other brothers have clean hands because they don't care to do the dirty work of taking care of their mom...one of themy told me that I should be commended for the work that I am doing. I don't need commending. I need help. However, my two oldest brothers were very interested in securing a will for her.

I was the major caregiver for dad before he died. He was a handful too. After he died, it seems that she went down quickly, giving up on any social acidity or self interest. She just sits, moves from chair to chair. It is 98 outside and she refuses to take off her heavy bath robe. She has been sitting outside since 11:00. It is now 6PM and she has only wanted to eat a couple of cookies and a few swig of water.

I just don't know what to do. She refuses any outside help that is recommended for her. I am stressed out over having to do nearly everything and then deal with her resistance and demands.