Mike from Massachusetts

For many years, my wife Sandy has been a primary caregiver for her mother and father. Several years ago, Sandy decided to leave her job and travel about 20 miles each way to spend 4 to 5 hours a day with her parents, who were still living at home in their late 80s.

Three years ago, they decided to move into assisted living. As her father became more frail, Sandy would spend more time taking care of his personal needs, as well as supporting her mom. Her father died in early 2013, and her mom continued to reside in the assisted living facility. In July of this year, however, her mom suffered a series of medical setbacks, with several hospitalizations and rehabilitation. Sandy began spending many hours every day supporting her mom both emotionally and physically. Sandy's brothers also helped, although Sandy was the primary caretaker.

As I reflect on our family situation, there is no doubt that we were very fortunate in several respects. First, Sandy had the experience of being a professional caregiver, and was prepared for the many challenges. Second, we were fortunate to be able to afford for Sandy leave her job and devote her time to her parents. Third, both of her parents resided relatively close. One thing is for sure, it's a huge responsibility to be a caregiver, and can take a real toll both financially and emotionally on everyone. But there is no doubt that Sandy is grateful for being given that blessing.