Deborah from New York

I am the oldest of 5 siblings, and fortunately have the help of 3 of those siblings when it comes to caring for our 90 and 93 year old parents.

My dad had a stroke in April leaving him with some cognitive issues, and it appears my mom's blood cancer has returned leaving her weak, tired and in need of blood transfusions every 3-4 weeks. On top of that mom has an enormous bed sore on her butt that needs to have a dressing change daily. They both need someone with them 24/7.

We recently signed up for hospice care for mom and have found that to be very helpful as they have arranged to get wound-care supplies, medical equipment and medicines.

Me, my sister, 2 of my 3 brothers, my husband, my brother-in-law and a part time CNA take turns caring for my parents. It is physically and mentally exhausting but it is our goal to keep them in their own home for the remainder of their days.

Share Your Caregiving Story Here

+ Tips for sharing your story

This is an update to my family caregiving story that I have already shared.

Only one story submission per person and/or per household will be accepted.

I also agree that, only when necessary, AARP or its representative may call me with requests for information, as needed to verify my story.

By clicking “Share Your Story”, I acknowledge that I have read and agree to the terms and conditions of AARP’s Release Agreement and agree to receive emails about AARP activities, events, and membership benefits.